10 commandments for a successful marriage.

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1. Love Comes First: Physical love is good, but there has to be genuine spiritual love also in your heart. Your immediate neighbor is your own spouse. So let charity begin at home and set an example by loving your spouse first and foremost. Follow the scripture: "Love thy neighbor as thyself".

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2. Narrow the Gulf: Whether it is a love marriage, arranged marriage or forced marriage, differences are bound to arise. Both of you come from different backgrounds, upbringings and environments. You must be ready to overlook the sharp differences, lapses or shortcomings.

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3. Forgive & Forget: Remember, to forgive is divine, and keep doing it, even if you have to repeat this process for infinite times.

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4. Begin the Day Cool: Early in the morning, both spouses should try to remain calm and cool. No discussions or arguments in the early morning hours.

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5. Silence Can Save: When you leave home for work in the morning, be at your best behavior. If one of you is provoked or complains, silence is the best answer. Conversely, you can say, "We will discuss it in the evening".

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6. Inquire & Appreciate: After you return home, enquire and take interest in one another's activity during the day: "How was your day?" You must show your genuine appreciation and sympathy. Top it with a pleasant smile.

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7. Listen & Sympathize: Do listen to your spouse attentively and sympathetically. Never ignore. Even at your place of work, if you get a telephone call from your partner, be polite and courteous, in spite of your busy schedule.

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8. Don't Forget to Compliment: Make use of "Thank you", "Well done", "You have done a good job", and "I am sorry", as frequently as is necessary. Be generous in your praise and compliments.

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9. Don't Compare: Do not enter into comparisons. No one is 100% perfect or 100% imperfect. We all have flaws and shortcomings. Always look at the good qualities of your spouse.

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10. Keep Smiling: Be cheerful and smile away your problems. Give a smile as often as you can. Only a human person is endowed with this blessing. Animals do not have this rare faculty. Did you know you use only 20 muscles for a smile but 70 muscles for a frown? So, keep smiling!

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Immature love says: "I love you because I need you."

Mature love says: "I need you because I love you."
~ Erich Fromm   (source:Funlok.com)
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'Better pay drives women to prostitution'

Anahita Mukherji , TNN | May 1, 2011, 04.40am IST

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MUMBAI: Very rarely does a survey of prostitutiontake into account the economics of sex work, or view it in the context of the labour market. While a detailed study of the economics of commercial sex work in the US found its way into the 2009 bestsellerSuperfreakonomics, two economists from Pune University have studied the same angle in perhaps the first pan-India study of prostitution.

The preliminary findings of the study, conducted by Rohini Sahni and V Kalyan Shankar of the department of economics, Pune University, under the aegis of the Centre for Advocacy on Stigma and Marginalization, Sangli, were released in Mumbai on Saturday.

The researchers surveyed 3,000 female sex workers and 1,355 male and transgender workers from 14 states and one Union Territory in India. The findings were released at the Gender Resource Centre run by Akshara, an organization working in the field of women's studies. 

"While most surveys on prostitution treat sex workers as objects, or focus on issues such as HIV, very rarely is their voice heard. We have attempted to conduct an objective study of prostitution as part of the unorganized labour market in India,'' said Sahni.

The study shows that 50% of the women sex workers entered prostitution after prior experience in the other areas of the labour market. Many entered the work force at an early age, often between the ages of 7 and 10, in fields like agricultural labour and domestic work.

It was often strenuous physical labour and low pay that pushed women to quit their earlier professions and join prostitution. The survey shows that their incomes increased nearly five-fold on entering prostitution.

The study shows that those entering prostitution after experience in other labour markets are often poorer, and less educated, as compared to those who directly entered sex work.

Contrary to perception, 70% of both these categories of sex workers (those who entered the profession directly as well as those with prior experience in other fields) say they entered the field of their own accord. The remaining were forced, sold into prostitution or cheated into it. Of those who were sold, a vast majority say that it was their husbands, lovers, friends and acquaintances who sold them, very rarely blaming strangers. Very rarely did they name strangers as the agents who sold them. 

(source: http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com)

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Hubble's Most Mind Expanding Photos of the Universe

Posted by Martin_Connelly on Thursday, Apr 28, 2011

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The just-turned-21 Hubble Space Telescope has spent its entire life taking photographs of such enormous, otherworldly things that words stop working. And the events in its photographs happened so long ago, notions of time stop working too.

But don’t speak, and forget about the time. Here, in no particular order, are nine pretty big reminders that you are tiny, insignificant, and yet part of an awesome network of particles and forces that we’re only beginning to understand. Good thing we’ve had you Hubble, to help us think about this—and, of course, spruce up our computer desktop backgrounds.

1 — THE RED SPIDER NEBULA

The powerful stellar winds of this nebula, located in the constellation of Sagittarius, generate waves 100 billion kilometers high. The waves are caused by supersonic shocks, formed when the local gas is compressed and heated in front of the rapidly expanding lobes. The atoms caught in the shock emit the spectacular radiation seen here.

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2 — THE OMEGA NEBULA

Here, a bubbly ocean of glowing hydrogen, oxygen, and sulfur gas mingle in the extremely massive and luminous molecular nebula Messier 17. Also known as the Omega or Swan Nebula, M17 is a hotbed of star formation, located about 5500 light-years away in the Sagittarius constellation.

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3 — THE PLEIADES

A dark interstellar cloud ravaged by the passage of Merope, one of the brightest stars in the Pleiades star cluster, at a relative speed of roughly 11 kilometers-per-second.

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4— SATURN

Using special image processing, astronomers created a crisp, extremely accurate view of Saturn, highlighting the planet’s pastel colors. The bands of subtle yellows, browns, and grays indicate differences in the clouds over the second largest planet in the solar system.

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5 — TWO SPIRAL GALAXIES

In the direction of the constellation Canis Major, two spiral galaxies pass each other like giant astral ships in the night.

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6 — THE HORSEHEAD NEBULA

The Horsehead Nebula, located in the constellation of Orion, rises in a cold, dark cloud of gas and dust like a mythical sea horse. The bright area at the top left-hand edge is a baby star whose radiation is eroding its gaseous nursery. A massive star, located just outside Hubble’s view, is also sculpting the top of the Horsehead.

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7 — THE CARINA NEBULA

The chaotic activity atop a pillar of gas and dust, inside a stellar nursery called the Carina Nebula, is three light-years tall. The turbulence of the so-called “Mystic Mountain" nebula signals the infant stars growing intensely within.

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8 — PLANETARY NEBULA NGC 6302

Once about five times the mass of the Sun, a star is at the center of this nebula’s fury, known as a planetary nebula for the orbital-shape it has when seen through amateur telescopes. Its dainty butterfly wings are actually roiling cauldrons of gas at a temperature of 20,000 degrees Celsius, flowing at over 950,000 kilometers-per-hour, which is fast enough to travel from Earth to the Moon in 24 minutes.

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8 — ANTENNA GALAXIES COLLIDING

Here, a collision between two galaxies in Corvus has been captured in a composite image generated by Hubble (gold), the Chandra X-ray Observatory (blue), and the Spitzer Space Telescope (red). In a collision like this, one galaxy can still rip the other apart gravitationally, even if the stars within usually do not collide. That’s because stars make up only a very tiny percentage of space within a galaxy. Instead, dark dust pillars show where massive molecular clouds are being compressed during the galactic encounter, causing the rapid birth of millions of stars. The most massive of those stars will have already spent their millions-of-years long lives and exploded into supernovas.

The collision started 100 million years ago and is still happening.

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Images courtesy SpaceTelescope.org.

Connections:
The Largest Telescope on Earth (Video)
Stellar Mystery Objects Are Never As Exciting As You Hope
A History of the Telescope (Video)

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