Turn to spiritual practices to heal your past
Published: Wednesday, May 11, 2011, 11:23 IST
By Ashish Virmani | Place: Mumbai | Agency: DNA
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Every one of us has some unpleasant episode or situation in our lives that we would like to erase from our memories — if we only could. Yet the past has a way of recurring in our thoughts without warning, which can either upset us or, in extreme cases, render us dysfunctional. So what can we do to get over it?
Says psychologist Varkha Chulani, “Dwelling on the past or brooding over it, especially an episode that’s unpleasant, causes remorse, anguish or depression. In most cases, it does not solve any problems and such thoughts only pull one down. When you find yourself doing this, ask yourself fundamental questions, such as ‘What will my thoughts achieve?’or ‘Is there anything I can do about the past now that it’s over and done with?’”
She adds, “It’s important to learn from the past. Intelligent people profit from the past, from the mistakes they’ve made by not repeating them in the future.”
Fitness expert Deanne Pandey says, “Though we may understand that it serves no purpose to brood on the past, we’re all human beings and vulnerable to the habit of brooding in different degrees. Life often throws situations at you that you have to face whether you like it or not. I have battled my challenges in life, thanks to a lifelong pursuit of fitness. I believe a healthy body is a prerequisite to a healthy mind and in this yoga has helped me immensely.”
She says that she was a shy kid with no confidence and couldn’t even speak in class without bursting into tears. “Yet life teaches you techniques as you go along. Yoga has helped me develop will power and strengthen my mind over the last 17 years and when I do it, unpleasant thoughts start to melt away from my mind,” Pandey says.
Chulani feels that it is natural to grieve for a period and a little emotionality helps keep the mind robust and the emotions healthy. “In terms of broken relationships or the loss of a loved one, I’d say give yourself time to recover through grieving. We are human beings who have a heart, so give yourself time for healing. However if the process is blocking your effective functioning in the present, then you need to look for strategies to get over it.”
Published: Wednesday, May 11, 2011, 11:23 IST
By Ashish Virmani | Place: Mumbai | Agency: DNA
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Every one of us has some unpleasant episode or situation in our lives that we would like to erase from our memories — if we only could. Yet the past has a way of recurring in our thoughts without warning, which can either upset us or, in extreme cases, render us dysfunctional. So what can we do to get over it?
Says psychologist Varkha Chulani, “Dwelling on the past or brooding over it, especially an episode that’s unpleasant, causes remorse, anguish or depression. In most cases, it does not solve any problems and such thoughts only pull one down. When you find yourself doing this, ask yourself fundamental questions, such as ‘What will my thoughts achieve?’or ‘Is there anything I can do about the past now that it’s over and done with?’”
She adds, “It’s important to learn from the past. Intelligent people profit from the past, from the mistakes they’ve made by not repeating them in the future.”
Fitness expert Deanne Pandey says, “Though we may understand that it serves no purpose to brood on the past, we’re all human beings and vulnerable to the habit of brooding in different degrees. Life often throws situations at you that you have to face whether you like it or not. I have battled my challenges in life, thanks to a lifelong pursuit of fitness. I believe a healthy body is a prerequisite to a healthy mind and in this yoga has helped me immensely.”
She says that she was a shy kid with no confidence and couldn’t even speak in class without bursting into tears. “Yet life teaches you techniques as you go along. Yoga has helped me develop will power and strengthen my mind over the last 17 years and when I do it, unpleasant thoughts start to melt away from my mind,” Pandey says.
Chulani feels that it is natural to grieve for a period and a little emotionality helps keep the mind robust and the emotions healthy. “In terms of broken relationships or the loss of a loved one, I’d say give yourself time to recover through grieving. We are human beings who have a heart, so give yourself time for healing. However if the process is blocking your effective functioning in the present, then you need to look for strategies to get over it.”
(source:dnaindia.com)
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