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11 Nov 2011



Mistakes Women Make While Having Sex

By EUDORA N. NDUBISI
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According to WebMD, when your sex life becomes a little humdrum (routine like), out comes the mental catalogue of all the ways your partner isn’t quite measuring up.

Husbands tend to get a bad rep when it comes to understanding women’s bodies and what turns them on, making him easy target in the blame game when sexual satisfaction starts to wane.

Yes, they make their fair share of bedroom errors. But as the saying goes, it takes two to tango. As it turns out, top sex and relationship experts say that women make plenty of sex mistakes of their own.

Here are what the experts have to say about the most common mistakes women make in the bedroom and what you can do to get the satisfaction you so rightly deserve.

Mistake 1: Not Initiating Sex with Your Partner

Many of us worry about ladylike behavior. We don’t want to appear pushy or come on too strong for fear of being labeled aggressive or worse. According to experts, to initiate sex is one of the biggest mistakes women make.

“Most guys feel like they are always the initiator and that sets up disequilibrium on the passion scale in the relationship. Generally, men want to be pursued by their partners just as much as women do.

Holding onto outdated ideas about sex roles also inhibits satisfaction with our sexual relationships, meanwhile, contrary to men’s believe, women are as interested in sex [as men].”

Wives, show your interest by taking the first step from time to time. Your partner will likely appreciate it, and you may find a new level of satisfaction in taking responsibility for your sexual experience, the experts feel strongly that women must do this.

Mistake 2: Believing He’s Always Up for Sex

This is mostly true for the teenage boy who is virtually ready and willing any time you ask, but not true for men and married ones at that.

The pressures of everyday life -- family, work, bills -- can zap a man’s libido. This may come as a big surprise to many women, and often they take to heart or personally, his lack of interest in sex.

Women know themselves that they are not always interested in sex and they are still loved by their man. But when they discover he doesn’t want to have sex, they think, ‘he doesn’t love me or there is another. No! He doesn’t want to have sex just then.

A woman must take responsibility for her sexual needs; no man can bring a woman to orgasm if she doesn’t participate in their sexual acts. Even the best lover can’t know what you need done to you, without letting him know.

If you can tell him what you like or don’t in a way that doesn’t kill his ego do or sandwich what you do not like in between five things you do like, men very much want to sexually please their women.

Mistake 3: Assuming Sex Is Casual for a Man

Letting go of old-fashioned notions that our society has ingrained in women, such as women are not sexual or that sex is just sex to men and understand the today man that sex is as important him as it is to you.

So, do not make light of (trivialise) sex. Research supports the idea that both men and women find sexual intimacy in the context of a committed relationship to be more fulfilling

Embrace the truth and reality of today and forget the two erroneous and enormous mistakes that women are not sexual and men are not as romantic as women that society has led us to believe.

Mistake 4: Getting Upset When He Suggests Something New
After a couple has been together for a while, it’s natural to want to spice things up with a little variety.

Just because he wants to try something new does not mean he’s unhappy with you or your sex life or that he has another partner who has introduced new acts. In short: Don’t take it personally.

Nevertheless, it’s important that you tune into your comfort zone if he asks you to try something that’s outside of your morals. Nobody should ever feel obligated to do something they don’t want to do in the personal and intimate area of sexuality.

Make it clear that it’s off limits for you and explain why, as lovingly and as best you can.

If it is something that is not really a moral issue for you but you just don’t want to, again explain why. If it is a simply a startling request and you’re initially uneasy about it, try not to overreact. Instead, let him know you need some time to think or adjust to it.”

Mistake 5: Worrying About What You Look Like

Some women think about how they look during sex, they kill their chances of enjoying themselves and ruining their likelihood of achieving orgasm. Guess what? If he wants to have sex with you, he thinks you’re sexy.

Don’t think about the fat on your belly or thigh, or the makeup on your face, experts’ advice. Concentrate on the pleasure in the act for you. You should allow yourself to enjoy it and have an orgasm to boost.

Most men want their wives to abandon themselves in sex play, and it’s not likely if you are fretful about your physical conditions. Believe this, most times your man don’t notice half the things you obsess about at any rate.

You’ll be startled at what men don’t notice if you’re enthusiastic, energetic, interested in them, and are flexible minded. Primal survival mechanism lives on in men; they can be selectively blind. According to the experts ooh. Guess what? If he wants to have sex with you, he thinks you’re sexy

If you must know, men are much more attracted to women who show signs of health, youth and fertility. Rather than worry about the shape of your waist and hips, worry about your energy level your enthusiasm and your interest in him and in the sex.

Mistake 6: Analyzing his equipment malfunction.

This happens to every guy, but it’s still an awkward moment. Unless deflated sails are an ongoing problem, don’t make a big deal about it.

Delving into the psychology of why he’s gone flat and what it means only makes the situation worse.

Who knows why it happened? He could have suddenly had a [mental] flash that he couldn’t control and the thought made him lose his erection. It could be the start of a health problem.

Follow his lead. If he’s done, move on. But if he wants another shot, you should too. Keep going and try something else, there are so many things you can do in bed together that don’t require an erect penis. Take it as a chance for him to focus on you for a few minutes.

Mistake 7: Do You Have Good Manners In Bed?
Good bedroom decorum is more than just being polite. It’s about being respectful and considerate to your partner too. How good are your bedside manners?

For example your guy's in the mood for love, and you're not. Do you

• Tell him I'm exhausted, then roll over and go to sleep

• Point him toward the lube, and tell him to handle things himself

• Promise him a rain check in the morning - then deliver in spades

Keep the questions and comments coming.
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