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With the huge rise in texting and social media over the last decade, it comes as no surprise that the trends would have an impact on our sexuality.
Picture messages and Skyping have made it easy for people to send nude pictures or videos to each other and stay connected when they are apart. Technology has also made it easy to instantly send these pictures to mass amounts of people or upload them online.
Should you be sending sexy pictures, videos or messages to your partner or should you keep it to yourself and not risk potential public humiliation?
If you are sexting your steady partner, there needs to be enough trust and comfort to know that they will not share these pictures with anybody. There should be a conversation early on in the relationship about it, but my hope is that the person you are dating is decent enough that they wouldn’t do that to you.
If this is the case, then sexting is a great way to enhance your sexual connection. You can send each other sexual text messages and naked or very revealing pictures as a way to get your partner excited for activities to come. It can also be a way for couples in long-distance relationships to stay connected. Skyping is great for this because you are able to see your partner, making the distance seem less daunting.
Sexting can also be used as a way to entice someone into hooking up with you. You may exchange topless or pant-less pictures to show the other person “what you’ve got.” This is a more risky use of sexting. If you have not yet established a true connection with this person, there may not be that same trust or loyalty that you would have with a steady partner. You have no way of knowing whether or not this person is showing your intimate texts and pictures to their friends and even family.
I know what you might be thinking: “Oh, this person is different. They won’t show anyone.”
Listen up, people: the cold hard fact is that guys like to show off the nude pictures girls send them as a bragging right to their friends; and girls show each other penis pictures, they get because let’s face it, penis pictures are funny.
If you’re just a hook-up, this person will probably have no qualms showing their friends the sexual pictures and text messages you are sending them. Don’t be that person. I would strongly recommend you do not send any nude pictures to someone you have only recently met or are getting to know. Wait until a solid relationship has been built and trust has been established before sending pictures to anyone. You just never know.
Finally, there can be an even darker side to sexting, especially among younger kids. People are using sexting as a way of bullying and humiliation. Girls are sending pictures to guys, who then send them to everyone in school or post them online.
A number of children have committed suicide because they were so badly humiliated and bullied by a sexting incident gone wrong. There is also the legal issue of someone over the age of 18 being in possession of nude photos of minors, even if they are in a relationship with this person. Some 19-year-olds have gone to jail for having pictures of 17-year-olds who they were dating.
One of the worst things, though — and in my opinion the most violating act of sexting gone wrong — is when someone secretly films sex and shares that video with their friends. It isn’t just the sleazeballs who are doing it either. I have been shown videos taken by friends of people having sex, and these were good guys. I even knew of a guy who had his friends Skyped into his hook-up and the girl didn’t know. Even the seemingly nicest guys can do the dumbest, meanest things.
How can it be avoided? If you are having sex with someone, make sure there isn’t an open laptop, web cam or camera that is pointed towards the bed. That is a big red flag that you are being taped.
Just be aware of who you’re sexting and whether or not you can really trust this person, because the last thing you want is your mom “liking” a naked photo of you on Facebook.
(source:http://mainecampus.com)
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The Sexpert: Sexting private parts can lead to broken heartsBy Sarah Hinman
With the huge rise in texting and social media over the last decade, it comes as no surprise that the trends would have an impact on our sexuality.
Picture messages and Skyping have made it easy for people to send nude pictures or videos to each other and stay connected when they are apart. Technology has also made it easy to instantly send these pictures to mass amounts of people or upload them online.
Should you be sending sexy pictures, videos or messages to your partner or should you keep it to yourself and not risk potential public humiliation?
If you are sexting your steady partner, there needs to be enough trust and comfort to know that they will not share these pictures with anybody. There should be a conversation early on in the relationship about it, but my hope is that the person you are dating is decent enough that they wouldn’t do that to you.
If this is the case, then sexting is a great way to enhance your sexual connection. You can send each other sexual text messages and naked or very revealing pictures as a way to get your partner excited for activities to come. It can also be a way for couples in long-distance relationships to stay connected. Skyping is great for this because you are able to see your partner, making the distance seem less daunting.
Sexting can also be used as a way to entice someone into hooking up with you. You may exchange topless or pant-less pictures to show the other person “what you’ve got.” This is a more risky use of sexting. If you have not yet established a true connection with this person, there may not be that same trust or loyalty that you would have with a steady partner. You have no way of knowing whether or not this person is showing your intimate texts and pictures to their friends and even family.
I know what you might be thinking: “Oh, this person is different. They won’t show anyone.”
Listen up, people: the cold hard fact is that guys like to show off the nude pictures girls send them as a bragging right to their friends; and girls show each other penis pictures, they get because let’s face it, penis pictures are funny.
If you’re just a hook-up, this person will probably have no qualms showing their friends the sexual pictures and text messages you are sending them. Don’t be that person. I would strongly recommend you do not send any nude pictures to someone you have only recently met or are getting to know. Wait until a solid relationship has been built and trust has been established before sending pictures to anyone. You just never know.
Finally, there can be an even darker side to sexting, especially among younger kids. People are using sexting as a way of bullying and humiliation. Girls are sending pictures to guys, who then send them to everyone in school or post them online.
A number of children have committed suicide because they were so badly humiliated and bullied by a sexting incident gone wrong. There is also the legal issue of someone over the age of 18 being in possession of nude photos of minors, even if they are in a relationship with this person. Some 19-year-olds have gone to jail for having pictures of 17-year-olds who they were dating.
One of the worst things, though — and in my opinion the most violating act of sexting gone wrong — is when someone secretly films sex and shares that video with their friends. It isn’t just the sleazeballs who are doing it either. I have been shown videos taken by friends of people having sex, and these were good guys. I even knew of a guy who had his friends Skyped into his hook-up and the girl didn’t know. Even the seemingly nicest guys can do the dumbest, meanest things.
How can it be avoided? If you are having sex with someone, make sure there isn’t an open laptop, web cam or camera that is pointed towards the bed. That is a big red flag that you are being taped.
Just be aware of who you’re sexting and whether or not you can really trust this person, because the last thing you want is your mom “liking” a naked photo of you on Facebook.
(source:http://mainecampus.com)
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