Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Handle with care

Parents - Handle them with care

Dec 4, 2012, 12.00AM IST 

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Parents are never the easiest to please, they have their own set of sky-high expectations from their children. 

Arguments are a part of any parent-child relationship. But how you handle it as a child is important. Here are some points that you should heed to successfully handle an argument with your parents and come out on the winning side.

Talk out the rules: There will be all sorts of rules — what is the deadline to come home, phone usage, how much of TV can be watched, rules about friends coming over or stay overs with friends, how often you can party, etc — the list is endless. One of the best ways to avoid arguments about rules is to discuss them with your parents. If you feel that the rules are too harsh or unrealistic talk it out, your parents may be willing to make some adjustments. Don't yell or argue; explain your points gently.

Follow the rules: Now that the rules have been set, ones that both of you have agreed to, stick to them. This is especially important in case of deadlines as your parents will begin to worry if you've not returned home at the promised time. Also, it will cause them to doubt your sense of responsibility. If you're going to be late, call up and inform.

Communicate: This is the key to solving most arguments. But communication is not just a problem solver, take time out to spend with your family telling them about your day and asking them about theirs. This is a special time that can work wonders to strengthen family bonds.

Family time: Yes, you may feel that your parents have time for everyone else and everything apart from you, but how much of time do you dedicate to them? Spending time with family will give you a chance to better understand them, especially when you are told not to do something or not given permission for a late night, or a picnic.

Pick your battles wisely: You can't fight about any and every issue, it's just not worth the effort. When something is worrying you or getting on your nerves, take a deep breath and a minute to figure out how important an issue it is for you. If you can let it go, do that. But if you can't, make sure you argue out your issues calmly and not get all stressed out about the same.

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